It was Summer 1994 as my Professor at University of Cologne send me to The Research Institute for Operations Management (FIR) in Aachen to learn the basic of communication between two Computers, because at that time was not so easy like now a days.
I should learn all about it as a part of my preparation for the journey in indien, to send all report from the place where new culture wave will born to my professor.
I should meet a really good friends from my Professor there, DR. Labello ! a really friendly, respected an Scientific man, who already pointed one of his technical assistant to teach me about all that stuff.
It was a sunny shine Morning, the weather was wonderful so the people too, every one and every faces shining too!
I just tried to push the unwieldy big glass Door at main entrance of FIR, as one Asian Guy give me a hand to push it together.
So then I ask him directly where I can meet this friends of my professor, but instead to answer me, he ask me with his giggle "so You are the smart and beauty Miriam from Cologne?" than I kick him bag and giggle " I'm not smart but greatly pretty!, and you said it first Smart and then beauty ?" my question make him laughter as a small Boy..and I like that...Our Son laughing like that too now.
So I haven't give him a time to answer my first question and start my second comment "don't you know the woman like that man told them they are Beautiful?"
Suddenly he stop to laughing and answer me "me Lady, may I answering your questions in short sentence ? "beauty is easy, but smart is not breeze ! it is a hart works"
I know the real Answer why for him more important Smart then The beauty really late, on the ceremony in Our Traditional Javanese Weeding ceremony in Solo, it is the influence of his Javanese education from his Mom and I'll tell you later about this.
Any way he show and introduce me with his Master DR. Labello, who said directly "oh you know already each other, you both will be a good team"
and he look to Mastri
and spree with him "and You just show her the computer communication, that's all ..so have a nice Days you Both".
I savour every minute with him, he is real good teacher and really patient, this short 3 days with him change many My point of view and of course we become a real good friends.
Before we said good Bye, I’ll promised him, to lean about The Javanese Culture and Kejawen ..of course to pleased him :-)), and I'll send him an E-mail from time to time.. I'll write you the next view days....
The first years in Indonesia, I still think that the Javanese women’s are not emancipated.
Because I ´ve seen it with my toffee-nosed.
End of 2001, me and my Husband should stay about one month in Jakarta, of course we should stay in his Family Houses and in order to respect each family. We should move from family to other family each 3 or 4 days.

Till that time because we just stay for really a short time in Jakarta, so we could stay for free in one of the Hotels from his Sisters...exact it’s own by his Sister and not his brother in law, because of Javanese family tradition in most instances the owner ship belong to the woman with a children.
In this time I can observe what happen in those normal course of life, while most of them have completely large house and Garden, in family days meeting I can feel it how big the power of the Javanese Woman and How they handled their family and husband.
Especially in families life the man does not have to say and is right like his children, in case that one of his Brother didn’t agree with his wife so my mother in Law protect her daughter in Law or stay in the sides of my sister-in-law.

In other sides the woman’s espouse and really think with which their husband make, so if you ever heard "behind the great man, staying always the strong and wise woman" it is the normal value for the old Javanese Tradition......I will write further, thus up to next times

    
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Sekitar 4 Tahun saya tidak ke Kota Bunga (Puncak, Bogor): jadi minggu lalu saya ke Kota Bunga hari Jumat. Ternyata Kantor Kota Bunga sekarang hanya buka Senin s/d Rabu. Karena sudah telanjur di Kota Bunga, saya riset lah kepo melihat-lihat.  

Di Pintu I ada bangunan besar dengan Plang besar MARKAS ALJAZEERA. Saya pikir Kantor Berita Al Jazeera, ternyata bukan. Itu Restoran dan Hotel yang konon kata Penjaga rumah saya, ada satu ruangan yang hanya bisa dimasuki oleh kaum Pria saja. "Apa ada tari perut yang melempar-lempar uang di atas perut pak ???" tanya saya. Jawab si Penjaga: "Mungkin bu". (Dia orang lokal, jadi dia juga mungkin ikut merahasiakan); Hmmmmmmmmm.  

Jalan antara pintu 1 dan 2 Kota Bunga banyak sekali Restoran, Kafe, dan tempat usaha dengan plang bahasa ARAB, jadi kita tidak mengerti itu resto apa, karena tidak ada bahasa Indonesianya atau Inggris. (Bukankah ini harus ditertibkan ???)

Saya kelilingi Kota Bunga; beberapa perempuan Arab berjalan pakai Cadar bersama anak-anaknya. Nyaman banget mereka terlihat, seperti di negara mereka. Terlihat ada Lelaki-lelaki Arab bergerombol di beberapa rumah sambil menghisap SHISHA, tertawa-tawa (ngakak). 

Saya putuskan datangi salah satu rumah dengan supir dan penjaga rumah, dan mereka semua berdiri menyambut saya dengan tegang awalnya. Saya memperkenalkan diri saya  dan mengajak mereka ngobrol di teras villa yang mereka sewa. They spoke broken  english. Salah satu cukup terpelajar dan berbahasa Inggris dengan cukup baik bahkan punya kartu nama.  Laki-laki tu semua "married man" dari negeri Saudi dan lagi "HOLIDAY" saja di Indonesia tanpa keluarga, Dan mereka juga saling mengenal satu sama lain di Kota Bunga. (Mungkin tadi mereka sedang cekikikan saling sharing tentang perempuan lokal).  

Sudah 1 minggu mereka disana dan mereka dijemput oleh satu agent langsung dari Bandara ke Kota Bunga. Jadi praktis mereka tidak pernah kemana-mana selain kawasan Puncak. Amazing !!! Enggak kepengen sama sekali ke Bali atau Raja Ampat. 

Si Intelek bercerita, banyak Agent  yang memang HANYA menawarkan wisata dari Arab langsung ke Kota Bunga termasuk menyediakan "PROSTITUSI". Jadi Wisata "Direct to Kota Bunga" ini masuk dalam kelompok middle upper class lah. Sekarang Wilayah Ciawi mereka anggap lower-class (secara khusus saya bertanya mengapa tidak ke Ciawi). Sesekali konsentrasi saya terpecah karena beberapa Arabmen naik motor besar GERUNG-GERUNG-GERUNG SUARANYA seperti GENG MOTOR dan mendengar mereka berteriak-teriak dengan excited. Lalu terdengar bunyi ledakan...  saya bertanya "bunyi apa itu???"  ternyata bunyi PETASAN di siang bolong TANPA event apapun!!! Saya yakin di negara mereka-pun TIDAK sebebas itu main petasan.

Saya tidak tahu siapa Pemilik kawasan Kota Bunga sekarang, yang meminta iuran PPL sebesar hampir Rp. 500.000 rupiah per bulan, tapi MEMBIARKAN konsep Kota Bunga yang lama menjadi seperti konsep kawasan PROSTITUSI Arab. Kata Penjaga Villa saya, sudah sering Orang Indonesia yang menginap disana terkejut-kejut dan ribut dengan Arab karena mereka main petasan tidak dilarang. 

Menurut saya masalah kebebasan kultur dan SEX ARAB di Puncak ini sudah sangat luar biasa, kebablasan dan tanpa kontrol dari pemerintah. Pihak Pemerintah harus memerintahkan Pemda dan pihak-pihak terkait untuk memeriksa seluruh kawasan puncak itu. Saya yakin selain Prostitusi banyak pelanggaran lain seperti masalah perijinan tempat usaha, ijin tinggal dan sebagainya.

KOTA BUNGA-ku jadi KOTA ARAB 😱, sungguh menyedihkan ..😭
it´s about my life in Bali and Surakarta (Solo).

Of course this is my Subjective opinion or experience, and to have your experience just coming to Surakarta also well known as Solo!
in General I prefer to stay in Surakarta, because the atmosphere in Solo, the real name of this old city given by The local inhabitants.

Solo or Sura KARTA always remember me on 18 century culture and behaviour, especially if you got a Becak long the Jalan Brigadir Jendral Selamet Riyadi so you would see or event imagine the Boulevard from 18 century, It is something what Bali and Jakarta do not have it.

In Other side Solo have already 5 Stars Hotel and modern Buildings, but this central of Javanese Culture are still keeping their respective tradition.

I start to know Indonesian as I already stay quite a while in Solo, so don’t mention you know Indonesian, if you were not in Solo, other words don’t leave Indonesia before you stay minimal 3 day’s in Solo.

The people are really polite event they would say their mind, but with a really prudent and they always show us that they have unlimited of time, some people from other part of Indonesian interpret this way of life as to slow or to feminine.

Solo is the of Javanese Culture Centre, the other one is Jogya it´s about 60 km from Solo, but in Solo you would fine more than one Palaces from different Royal family, this is the unique of Solo and this all Palaces Build together the SPIRIT OF JAVA.